As Jan. 1 (FAST!) approaches, talk of New Year’s resolutions are everywhere: news reports, magazine covers, Facebook feeds, blog posts … you name it. But you won’t really see me talk about them here.
I don’t do New Year’s resolutions. Haven’t really ever, and I don’t plan on doing any this year. They don’t work for me. I’m of the opinion that every day is the start to a “new year” — every minute, really. FOR ME, goals that are worth setting are worth starting right now.*
That being said, Mr. B and I have set a list of things we want to do in 2013. They range from adventures we want to have to foods we want to taste. (I have a feeling, based on this list, that 2013 is going to be life changing.)
There’s also something I have started to be more cognizant of in the recent past — and something I plan to continue to work on in the coming year.
Sometimes, I’m not kind to myself. I say things that aren’t nice, productive or helpful. And I put A LOT of pressure on myself for perfection — perfection I know doesn’t even exist. (Set yourself up for failure, much, Kimi B?)
So, lately, I’ve been trying to be nicer to myself by:
- Not saying mean things about myself when I’m alone or when I’m with other people — even if it’s meant completely jokingly (It’s hard some days.)
- Letting Mr. B touch my bare belly (Admittedly, it’s sweet, and I kinda like it.)
- Going a little easy on myself and not fretting about an unexpected rest day
- Actually taking rest days
- Making “me” time that isn’t filled with “STUFF” or lists — even if it means the dishes sit in the sink for a little longer than I’d like, or the laundry remains unwashed for one more day (Reading for fun, warm bubble baths and giant sweatpants have found their way back into my life.)
- Accepting compliments (Always a weak spot, I’m working on it.)
- Recognizing that it’s OK to want to be complimented on things other than my brains or my sense of humor
- Taking time to appreciate how far I’ve come and the gifts I’ve given myself over the years: education, health, wellness, adventure …
So, while I don’t do New Year’s resolutions, I do recognize that I can resolve to be nicer to myself every day of every year — including on Jan. 1.
“If someone in your life talked to you the way you talk to yourself, you would have left them long ago.” ~Carla Gordon
*Please realize that I know setting New Year’s resolutions does work for some people. And if that’s what gets someone to work toward their goals, I say “bravo!” But, it just doesn’t work for me. I know; I’ve tried.