If there’s one thing I’ve learned about health and fitness and losing weight and gaining confidence, it’s that no one’s going to do it for you.
I’ve written about this before, but it bears repeating. Your health and fitness journey is yours and yours alone. Yes, a support system makes things WAY, WAY easier. And running partners certainly make runs fun. Those systems, those partners, come in the form of family, friends, fellow bloggers, coworkers — you name it.
But those support systems? They can’t change your life for you. You have to change it for yourself. Because those other people have their own lives to worry about — and I can almost guarantee you that their needs are going to come before yours.
So, here’s the thing: Relying on someone else to hold you accountable will only get you so far. I’ve heard it time and time again:
- “Well, I was going to work out, but my friend canceled on me.” Please. She (most likely) doesn’t own the gym. Get yourself there and workout.
- “I really wanted to order the grilled chicken, but my girlfriend had a burger, so I got one, too.” OK? Make your food decisions based on what you want and what’s right for your body — not on what other people around you are eating. It’s going in your mouth, not hers. (If you really want a burger, though, and you’re just looking for an excuse? Order the darn burger.)
- “I had 6 miles on my training plan for today, but my running partner only wanted to run 4.” Sorry, doll, but your running partner isn’t going to run your race for you. And if you don’t put in the miles, you’re the only one who’s going to suffer.
- “I really want to run that race, but I don’t have anyone to run it with me.” A. See previous bullet. B. I’ve learned that no matter who you are or what your pace is, there is always someone at a race to run with — or at least near. Just don’t be creepy about it.
They’re all excuses that are getting in your own way of success. To work, this one’s gotta be on you.
When you count on someone else, you’re at the whim of their desires, their goals, their timelines, instead of your own. And rather then achieving your goals, you just may find yourself doing a lot of waiting around. Besides, in all reality, a goal achieved feels so much better when you can look back and say, “Wow. I really worked for that one. And I did it for me.”
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again:
“You are in charge of your successes and failures on this path. No one can exercise for you. No one can eat your food for you. No one can say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ for you. You have to empower yourself to make those decisions. And you have to own them — good, bad or neutral.“
So, I encourage you to re-evaluate your goals and look at what you’re truly doing. Do you want this? If you do, go get it. Don’t wait for someone else to do it for you. Because she may be getting a manicure. Or walking her dog. Or be at the theater. Or buying groceries. When all you want to do it go run. Or swim. Or hike. Or bike. Get up and go for it. For you. By you.